What does your husband think?

I got my first “what does your husband think?” question about me doing a StrongWoman competition. It’s not a comment I would have got if I decided to enter a 10K run. I am not sure how it makes me feel, confused I think mainly about the thinking behind such a question.

I have entered another StrongWoman competition. This one is in October and much nearer my current strength abilities

Whilst I think it is full if you do fancy having a go get in touch with @Megrstrong as there is a reserve list.

Last week I bought this t-shirt

I have to say I don't usually buy caption t-shirts but this will be fantastic in the gym for only £4

I have to say I don’t usually buy caption t-shirts but this will be fantastic in the gym for only £4

I was hoping I bought it on the day I finally got a 45kg log press, but that was not to be. I currently can’t lock it out properly. I think I am putting extra pressure on myself to do it as in August the lighter weight is 45kg for reps in 60seconds. Whilst I don’t expect to excel my current baseline is to be able to at least start every event.

Apart from the abortive session I whinged about on the blog the gym was good to me last week. I got some more yoke walks done, I wasn’t using a belt so only got to 130kg but happy with that at the moment. I upped my PR for farmers walk to 62.5kg per hand with turn. I am making progress slowly (which actually seems to be my main problem in all the lifts,  if my coach isn’t saying HIPS! then he is saying FASTER!) I appear to be a grinder rather than an exploder….

The main reason I wanted to blog today wihthout really having anything to say is 2 posts that I wanted to recommend. Firstly Nia Shanks The commandments for losing fat, the sane and simple way  is currently free on Amazon. So why am I, who is suppose to be embracing what a body can do not what it looks like, recommending this? Because I think the title is misleading, yes you may lose fat but actual it’s just a pretty good blueprint on how to start living a healthy life.  Have a read and see what I mean.

The second recommendation is for a post by Fit and Feminist.  ”What we need to do is change the paradigm so that we value our bodies for all of the amazing things they let us do.” This post is just awesome. Please read.


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17 thoughts on “What does your husband think?

  1. Jo May 21, 2013 at 8:59 pm Reply

    Oh so I’m enquiring about a space. October is AGES away.. AGES.

    Oh. God.

  2. love2lift May 21, 2013 at 9:14 pm Reply

    Hey babe, unless it’s a typo.. August is 40kg for reps!! and I’m at 30kg so you’re ahead of the game girl! 😉 that 45kg is not needed unless you wanna train heavier!

    Great t-shirt and don’t fret what other people think! Most of us are married etc and if your hubby is supportive that is all that matters. 🙂

    off to have a look at those recommended blogs, thanks. 🙂

    Keep up the great work – you’re awesome and can’t wait for Aug and Oct.. a few of us will know each other well by the end of the year eh!


    • Helen Rothwell May 22, 2013 at 6:08 am Reply

      Oh THANK YOU! I’ve just been back to doublecheck and you are right it’s 40kg. I have NO idea why I had 45kg stuck in my head! Ha. Well pressure off (not that I can rep that many at 40kg but I can do one!)

      Not fretting just considering the thought processes behind such a question, it would not occur to me that my husband would have any definitive thoughts on the matter other than go for it. However other people obviously feel that it is something that a husband would have an opinion on.

      August is going to come so quickly!

      • love2lift May 22, 2013 at 3:47 pm

        haha I wish I could say the same on the 40kg.. I am going to test (sneaky as I’m supposed to be doing wendlers) my OHP tomorrow to see if I can do 35kg.. really REALLY hope I can! lol
        Repping will come, just keep repping a few kgs lower nad it’ll work well I’m sure. On the day we’ll be so hyped too! Can’t wait.

  3. Caitlin May 21, 2013 at 9:46 pm Reply

    Thanks for the shoutout! Also, did you tell the question-asker that your husband thinks it’s hot? 🙂 (In all seriousness, people have some nerve asking things like that.)

    • Helen Rothwell May 22, 2013 at 6:12 am Reply

      You wrote a great post.

      My husband thinks that as long as it’s legal and I’m happy then he’s onboard 🙂 However some people obviously do have questions. I wasn’t sure if it was from a gender neutral why would anyone want to do strongperson competition or a but you’re a girl what would your male partner think about you doing this. It wasn’t posed in a nasty way I know that. Anyway I’m sure a whole blog post could be written about the implications behind that question!

      • Caitlin May 23, 2013 at 12:24 pm

        I would love it if you wrote a post about this. Your husband sounds a lot like mine in that he just wants me to do what makes me happy, which is evidently some kind of revolutionary concept for a lot of people. The idea that a spouse could love their partner for who they are and not how well they fit a gender-specific stereotype should not be so shocking and yet for a lot of people it really is.

      • Helen Rothwell May 23, 2013 at 3:56 pm

        I did think about it, it’s not the only comment that has been made which has made me think WTF? but it wasn’t meant nastily. I think it’s because I do conform to a gender specific stereotype in so many ways (by people who don’t know me very well) they can’t reconcile the stereotype of strongwoman they have in their head with me.

        LiftBigEatBig, make me raise an eyebrow a lot but they also wrote this which you may enjoy

  4. G May 22, 2013 at 12:59 am Reply

    You could always snark back something awful like, “I can bench press him, so I’m not really too concerned about his opinion.” (That would probably open another can of worms, though.)

    This competition looks awesome! Good luck with your training.

    • Helen Rothwell May 22, 2013 at 6:16 am Reply

      The question was genuinely asked with no bad intent but obviously with some subtext, not sure what it was.

      Thank you.

  5. Tara May 22, 2013 at 8:26 am Reply

    I watched a few strongman events at BodyPower and it is so awesome!! The guys were doing 370kg yokes. Crazy. Their faces all turned bright red/purple, so I do worry that it may be too much with my eye and all. I haven’t given up hope yet!

    • Helen Rothwell May 22, 2013 at 8:31 am Reply

      Awesome! I don’t think they did any strongwoman lifting at bodypower which is a shame, but they did have female powerlifting.

      It’s not the prettiest or more dignified looking of sports!!

      There is always next year for you when you are more happy with what your eye can cope with. This sport is just going to grow and grow.

  6. Gingerzingi May 22, 2013 at 9:55 am Reply

    Congrats on entering the strongwoman contest! It looks grueling but fun.

    Any time people see our weight bench, they assume it belongs to my husband, and ask him how much he bench-presses. He’s good, though, he always tells them it’s mine (tho he uses it as much as I do).

    Maybe your friend is thinking about trying it herself, and just feeling out the possibilities, wondering how her own husband might react.

  7. kat_rocket May 23, 2013 at 10:44 am Reply

    Because I do crossfit I have been asked that question. I just say that my husband loves what I do. And I’m pretty sure he actively boasts about weights I’ve lifted at crossfit. But seriously, think you’re right, no one bats an eyelid if we do a sport that’s perceived as ok for women but do something that in their eyes is less feminine? They just can’t get their heads round it. Maybe that’s why we need more of these awesome strong woman comps!

    • helen May 23, 2013 at 7:52 pm Reply

      Those of you that have supportive husbands are lucky. My ex became very angry when I started working out to lose weight and help with my back pain. He would tell our son that my exercise was necessary. He used to tell me that he liked women with a bit of fat but then he would go online and look it porn with very young girls with trim bodies. One day back in 2010 he told me that I would quit in a couple of months.

      My pathetic 27kg bench press was enough to make him feel threatened, even though he weighs twice as much as I do and is a lot stronger. This is how threatened some men are! We are divorced now and I have never missed a training session. I had to choose between the barbell and marriage, I chose the barbell and never regretted it!

      • Helen Rothwell May 25, 2013 at 6:49 am

        I am glad the weights gave you the mental strength to leave a man who didn’t have your best interests at heart. I wish you are happy and healthy life without him. Thank you for reading and commenting.

  8. Sable Weisman (@SquatLikeALady) May 29, 2013 at 8:50 pm Reply

    I think the question you were asked ties in nicely with the last post you recommend! I don’t know what my response would be if I were asked that question. I have never cared what any of my BFs have done for exercise. I mean… who cares? What difference does it make??? If they, or if my husband, were terribly out of shape, I’d be concerned, sure. But if Max decided to, I don’t know, commit to a year of Zumba, I wouldn’t give a crap. I just don’t get the question. Does not compute. (But does point to horribly internalized gender roles on the part of the question-asker!)

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