Body Shaming.

I don’t really know who Miley Cyrus is, I have a vague idea she was once on a Disney Show but I’m too old and my kids are too young to have heard her name lots. I didn’t watch the VMAs last week but thanks to twitter and facebook I have heard a lot about it. I have no opinion on her routine, what I do have an opinion on is the way a picture has been doing the rounds criticising the state of Miley’s bottom and whether she squats or not, apparently she should start. My opinion is this,
This is body shaming.
It’s NOT OK to body shame, it’s not ok to body shame if someone is thin, it’s not ok to body shame if someone is fat, it’s not ok to body shame someone because they are muscly and it’s not ok to body shame someone because you don’t like the shape of their butt. Someone has used her bottom without her permission to do what? I’m not sure. Is it to encourage other people to squat? To warn people of the perils of not squatting? The perils of not squatting might be an inability to get out of a chair in future without assistance, not a saggy bottom. There are 100s of good reasons to squat, at the very bottom are aesthetic reasons. People are not using her picture to encourage people to squat in a positive way, but to body shame. The only people who should be ashamed are them.

16 thoughts on “Body Shaming.

  1. essentiallyjo August 31, 2013 at 7:17 am Reply

    I agree. Why hate on a young woman just because you don’t like one part of her body? It’s childish and just plain mean. I honestly don’t get it, I couldn’t care less what her butt looks like, it doesn’t affect my life!

    Jo (@essentiallyJo)

  2. Tara August 31, 2013 at 3:42 pm Reply

    I am so sick of seeing those pictures!!! Bret Contreras just posted a letter to Miley on his website, offering to help ‘fix’ her. Do people honestly think she gives a shit? I’m much more concerned with how cracked out she looked during that performance.

    • babyeaterlifts August 31, 2013 at 4:23 pm Reply

      ugh, did he really? He needs to just grow the hell up. Honestly, I’ve lost a lot of respect for him over multiple instances of rhetoric like this. It just kind of adds up to misogyny.

      • Helen Rothwell August 31, 2013 at 7:14 pm

        I’ve stopped reading his website, whilst the information was good I just couldn’t bear the side order of sexism and sweeping generalisations (or what he likes to call honest feedback) that came with it.

      • babyeaterlifts August 31, 2013 at 9:22 pm

        totally agreed. I feel like he shamed the hell out of runners’ bodies (specifically glutes, of course) a while ago and I thought “wow, okay. Your are a jerk^10.”

        The thing is, I have a very tiny butt. I have extremely narrow hips in relation to the rest of my proportions and genetically/hormonally (I probably run around with higher levels of progesterone, as evidenced by how my muscles develop over time) and am more inclined to build upper body mass than lower–so I’m the opposite of at least 60% of the female population. That said, I probably squat heavier pound-for-pound than most of the women he works with and I’m pretty dang sure I deadlift more pound-for-pound than 90% of them. And my glutes remain relatively moderately developed in comparison to my shoulders, which are huge partially by mass and partially because my collar bones are long as hell. So what would he have to say about me? I’m underperforming? I do barbell hip thrusts with 200 for easy 8-10 rep sets, so I’m not sure he can sling my weakness at hip thrusts back at me. He’s very single-minded and completely disrespectful of the wide range of skeletal frames within the human population. Ugh.

      • Tara August 31, 2013 at 11:01 pm

        I posted the link in response to Caitlin’s comment below. While I think women can change the shape of their butt (which should be done because they want to, not because some creepy glute-obsessed dude tells them to!), a large part of it is genetics. He seems to simply disregard that. You are strong as hell (I’ve been following your blog for a while!) and I’d love to see what “advice” he has for you. This is a quote from the Miley article – I imagine it would be something similar: “But you don’t need to worry Miley, you’ve got the perfect type of physique right now in terms of readiness for transformation. You’re flexible, you’re lean, and your dancing has kept your muscles active. You have an excellent foundation and your body is eager to adapt if you simply train properly.”

      • babyeaterlifts September 1, 2013 at 12:53 am

        ughhhhh, I can’t even take it. Fie on him. My semi-wry response to people making suggestions regarding my body with a mind towards aesthetics is always “not my sport, bro.” Because it isn’t. Looking “good” is literally not my sport. Putting up numbers is.

    • Caitlin August 31, 2013 at 10:44 pm Reply

      Oh god, did he really? I know his thing is women’s butts but come on.

      • Tara August 31, 2013 at 10:58 pm

        I hate to give him more traffic, but the link is here:

        The whole thing is one cringe-worthy statement after another, especially his introduction and then this:
        “All you gotta do is get in touch with me. Some women spend tens of thousands of dollars and endure horrific pain on cosmetic surgery to enhance their shape. But you don’t have to spend a dime. All you have to is put in around 70 hours of hard work and effort over a 3 month period. What’s more is that the results are au naturel; a testament to your dedication, not your wallet. What do you say Miley? Let’s do this!”

    • Jay September 2, 2013 at 5:34 pm Reply

      Didn’t you comment that the sight of Miley’s butt made you feel like vomiting?

      • Helen Rothwell September 3, 2013 at 6:10 am

        I won’t delete this comment as it is neither abusive nor spam but I am fairly certain I never said that. Have you got a link?

      • Tara September 3, 2013 at 7:40 am

        Yes!! But I meant in terms of the way she is being portrayed next to chickens, oysters, etc – not her actual butt itself.

    • Jay September 3, 2013 at 10:44 am Reply

      Helen, I was referring to Tara’s comment on the photo of Miley’s butt (not sure why now she claims differently): ”It doesn’t matter how many times I see that Miley picture – it always makes me shudder. Vomit!”

      • Tara September 3, 2013 at 4:29 pm

        I knew exactly what comment you were referring to! I did not word it very well, I admit, but my problem with the picture in the post is not Miley herself, but the constant comparison to every disgusting-looking thing in existence. Those pictures were being blasted in my face non-stop across all forms of social media. I don’t give a shit what Miley’s arse looks like! Geez.

  3. Caitlin August 31, 2013 at 10:46 pm Reply

    Amen to what you said. There was so much to critique about the performance – like the deeply problematic racial overtones, hello! – but people just went for the easy shit instead and said terrible things about her body. Misogyny FTL.

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